The Other “N-Word”

OurBlackMatters: The Voice of Today's Young Black Woman

By:Tagan Horton

The social context of the word nappy has become negative, making it a loaded word that is considered insulting. As a little girl(back in my perm days), I remember when that new growth started coming in, and my nana or my mom would dig their fingers in my hair and move towards my roots. I would look down with shame as they said, “Ooo chile, your hair is so nappy”. Next thing you know, I would be sitting in a chair getting a touch up. Now that I am older and perm free, I am filled with curiosity. Why is nappy a bad word?

During slavery, our hair was a very distinct feature that separated us from whites. Due to miscegenation, many black slaves were able to escape to The North and pass for white, due to their fair complexion. However, their hair would usually blow their cover…

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Blog Post: To Love a Black Girl: Finding and Maintaining a Positive Self-Image

OurBlackMatters: The Voice of Today's Young Black Woman

By: Terryce Boxley

How does one love something that the world has come to hate? How does one openly and unapologetically love something that society regularly slanders, dehumanizes, and simplifies? This may be the basal issue in the lack of self-love that I, as a black girl, have for myself. How do you love a black girl? It seems as though I should know the answer to that question. As a young girl, to be beautiful, my existence had to be modified. My hair was too difficult to deal with, so the soul was taken out of it by perms. We are not allowed to exist as we are. Too often, little black girls lose the idea of a positive self-image in this struggle to be deemed worthy of the space that they occupy. Each thing we are told to do to conform – whether it is how we wear…

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To the Future Father of my Future Black Princess: 

Beautiful peace of writing

OurBlackMatters: The Voice of Today's Young Black Woman

By: Alexis Ditaway

To the Future Father of my Future Black Princess:

You have been handed a responsibility that is only reserved for men that have proven themselves as Kings. You and I now have developed a bond that science will say is intertwined in our DNA, but when we are asked, we will say it is based on, formed with, and immersed in our love. We have created a being that is now under our direct protection, physically, mentally and emotionally, and your role in this is one that cannot be replaced.

As soon as she has entered the world from my womb, our daughter will look to you for her strength, protection and reassurance. You are to be all of this and more to her. Your active presence in her life is an important layer of foundation that she will use to build her love for herself, and…

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